Client Quote #53: why would I?

This sounds like another obvious realization, but we’d all be surprised at the journey it would take for someone to arrive at this conclusion. Because at the end of the day we are driven by our own relationship with ourselves.

If we have a critical relationship with ourselves, we will project it onto others. 

• This can look like being praised by loved ones and unable to believe them. 

• This can look like assuming that you are judged by others to the point where eating with others or wearing a bathing suit on a beach is difficult. 

• This can look like no matter what you do, you’re simply never quite good or thin enough. 

If we are practiced at saying mean things about ourselves TO ourselves. We start to allow others to speak to us the same way, we start to believe others if they make judgemental comments towards us that have nothing to do with us. We start to believe we don’t deserve good things. We might even stay in relationships with people who belittle us. Because after all, deep down we agree with them.

ED loves promoting self-criticism and negative self talk. BUT if we challenge our ED, if we practice kindness and self compassion- which requires you to work on feeling deserving to eat. We may start to notice we have an easier time advocating for ourselves. We may start to notice it’s easier to say no to people who don't serve you. We might also stop feeling as triggered by rude comments because we have stopped believing them to be true.